Stress covers so much today from redundancy, grief of a loved one, facing living alone, work related issues with colleagues and being over stretched.
It’s our modern way of life so fast with so much to deal with, so much change in all aspects of our everyday lives.
Stress has activators to make us do things out of character, as we are not able to make clear decisions when stressed and we are so stressed we forget what it is like not to be, it becomes the normal state of our being.
There are ways that seem to be how we cope with this through drug prescribed and ilegal. Drinking, sexual activities, gambling, retail therapy and many more but it is not the answer. Together we can explore different routes and choices to get a healthy life style back. Call me or email on the website. Jacquelinecastle.co.uk, take charge of your life and let go of things that no longer work for you. Find the life that you want to live.
There are so many factors but here are a few Divorces, looking after children on your own as there is no one to help. Caring for elderly or disabled parents and others, Job pressures with so many demands on us all to achieve and provide.
Talking to a friend who lives alone as a widow has a good job and finding that she is still grieving for her husband after 3 years and “the job she has is very stressful” were her words “and I have to cover for my colleague who is off on leave too”. She said “I am ill and had two weeks off and could not function and if I stay home any more I will be on a final warning to lose my job”. What do I do then, is this familiar to you, I am sure it’s in every day chats and conversations going on all the time. This is just an example of how stress can escalate in every area of our life until effects our health as well. There are ways to reduce this stress and get the life you would love to have. There are many routes that are being investigated into prescription drugs and they cause a lot of other illnesses in life if taken on a regular basis. These are prescribed regularly for Stress; they help but are not the answer.
Call me now and let see how we can change things around for you, just a call away. I have been through my own journey last year and into this year and felt this would never have happened to me but I was knocked back and unable to work and have had to reinvent myself and what I do and how I go about it. After 20 years in the counselling profession and helping others I had to start again and help myself so I have walked the talk as they say. Life is challenging at times and there are people like myself who have trained professionally in this field so I can pass the knowledge on. Working in many different areas as you will see on my website jacquelinecastle.co.uk and still enjoying what I do and the changes that people make and the differences just a few changes can bring to you and create the life you desire. Call me and see if I can help you too.
In our modern, fast pace of life with ever changing challenges we all face every day.
Trauma, Stress, Depression, hopelessness, anxiety, and grief all come and lurk in the depths of our being.
With so many demands on us we try to overcome these and in the end often get a prescription of antidepressants to take the edge of how we feel away.
Yes I am aware that these can help us through a very sticky patch and help us to feel better after a while.
After going with a friend suffering from anxiety and hopelessness, and hearing from this empathetic doctor, who said this is not the cure.
You need to do therapy to get the root or core of the problem as this will not be a cure, it will just ease things.
The doctor also mentioned only a few organisations which she thought might help but are not here anymore with cut backs on funding.
Also recommended self help u tubes to motivate you, then I began to think you need some help and face to face help which we are not use to today as we are in the era of electronics.
We lead our lives in this field and this is challenging for me but determined to share my thoughts with you and all its challenges.
Trauma what is it?
Where did it come from?
How do you know you have or are suffering from it?
All these questions can round and round and you seem to never find the answer.
You can feel stressed, have anxiety just about anything can fall into this category, and you just cannot face anything.
Friends, family and colleagues just don’t get it, you are left with feeling, what’s wrong with me.
The answer could stem back to trauma, talking to someone a few days after they had experienced an accident in the car, which they were under the doctor for and had gone away for a few days. They experienced the whole body in trauma and not able to walk or do much. After having a chat they realized that they were not feeling that great and the incident had upset them a lot more than they thought which is where it stays in the background.
Being Human we are affected by life and what happens to us.
Triggers can occur through Music, smells, voices, TV with scenes of abuse rape and violence.
Any one of these can set of a trauma incident that lays dormant and affects us living a happy life.
Many of us without any judgement can bury it in the bottom of a glass, or a drug we take which can be prescribed or many others.
They do numb the pain but bring other problems to and then we live a life out of control, and can find ourselves in a very dark hole.
There are answers, you just need to reach out and get some help and learn how to move on wards and upwards to the live you know you deserve.
Contact me I am a survivor and I thrive in life and what this for you.
Alone at Christmas
In a world of constant change, uncertainty and loss of beliefs, life can become overwhelming leading to feelings of loneliness, hopelessness, depression, and even suicide. And now, the party season is here and whilst it can be so much fun, can still lead to arguments when too much drink, drugs and sex come into play.
If you have an addiction it can lead to the loss of loved ones, families and friends – ultimately becoming an even worse nightmare. Drinking is socially accepted so we are able to drink to oblivion and not recall what we said. We become unaware of our actions so can cause trivial arguments that lead to worse. In addition we may justify our drinking and behaviour and the lack of finances which is an extra pressure – addiction can appear in many areas of our life and can just creep up on us, so worries, anxiety and stress, all hidden under the glamour of Christmas, can build to a head that, frankly, is difficult to cope with.
We are more acceptable to flashbacks of the memories we hold dear in our hearts and of the loved ones we may have lost. Of those who have not passed away but we no longer see or we have experienced a heart-breaking separation or divorce, then with all those memories (good or bad) the bittersweet feelings can be so heartfelt we do not know what to do. The sleigh bells are jingling and “Coming home for Christmas” songs are playing and we feel low and down and do not know how to cry.
I have learnt from my own experiences that you can only take one day at a time as the world is constantly changing. And so do we – nothing stays the same, Christmas comes and goes and somehow we all get through it. My suggestions are: be flexible and say yes – we can have different experiences with the same things if we think differently in our own thoughts; open up to others and smile or invite them to join you for a coffee or a drink – do something different to what you usually do – it’s challenging (I know, I have done it) but there is so much to gain.
Yes, it is challenging to change our thoughts, expectations and traditions that we are used to around this time of Christmas, but it is possible – just small steps to do what makes us happy but be aware of others and how and what you can do to make them smile and laugh. There is so much to gain and give at this time of year but it is about how we perceive it all. Life is not always as we want it and it is a lot better when we are able to let go of the hurt, betrayal, greed, competition and just be ourselves and have fun – smiling and laughter is the perfect gift. It’s not about money and how much we spend on each other; it’s not about the biggest and the best, its about love, kindness and opening ourselves to be with others, embracing their differences, diversity, different faiths and religions and knowing that we all feel the same. We’re all human, after all.
If you don’t have a family, then join in with others who do. And those who have families, then ask others who are alone to join you – they will bring something very special to the table.
There is a great cliché, “Let it begin with me”. Don’t wait for others to make your life better or affect your moods and what you choose to do. Give what you would like to receive – it comes back to you and will give you so much more. There are many explanations of how this philosophy works and why; the simple fact is that it does. Let’s help each other to have a better time this Christmas and new year –let’s move towards each other, not away.
If you would you like to find out how I might be able to help you then please phone me on 07733 454 790 or send me an email.
Jacquie Castle. Psychotherapy and Counselling in Hampshire.
STRESS Stress covers so much today from redundancy, grief of a loved one, facing living alone, work related issues with colleagues and being over stretched. It’s our modern way of life so fast with so much to deal with, so much change in all aspects of our everyday lives. Stress has activators to make us do things out of character, as we...
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In a world of constant change, uncertainty and loss of beliefs, life can become overwhelming leading to feelings of loneliness, hopelessness, depression, and even suicide. And now, the party season is here and whilst it can be so much fun, can still lead to arguments when too much drink, drugs and sex come into play. If you have an addiction...
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